TIPS ON HOW TO BE SEXUALLY SATISFIED IN BED.

TIPS ON HOW TO BE SEXUALLY SATISFIED IN BED.

Sex can be really satisfying if couples can be vulnerable with each other. Each individual in marriage should feel needed, wanted, accepted and loved sacrificially. One of the keys to building this type of relationship is understanding the general difference between men and women in how they view lovemaking. Here’s how to be sexually satisfied in the other room and have fun while at it.

Have a conversation with your spouse about how sexually unsatisfied you feel; after all it takes two to tango and it is easier to fix it if you are both on the same page.

Open up about how you’re feeling. Your lover might not know something is wrong if you don’t tell them. Let him/her know if you want more foreplay, dirty talk, touching or less of any of them and see if your spouse can offer any suggestions on the way forward. Don’t be shy  or feel uncomfortable to ask for what you want.

Sex is a two way street and bear in mind that your pleasure is 50 percent of the fun too.

Recreate the magic: it’s true that over the course of marriage, things that were once new and exciting can turn old/boring but that does not mean you cannot recreate the magic of your best hottest time in your union. A flashback at the stuff you once indulged in at the very beginning such as romantic getaway, spontaneous sex; get them back on the burner to recreate at least some of the magic.

Introduce sex toys into the bedroom as it might help to explain to your spouse more easily what it is you like or help you learn what it is you want. Sex toys are not about replacing your spouse  but rather, it’s about incorporating more creativity in your arousal and orgasmic pleasure.

Never mind the length of time, you can achieve great sex in as short a time as 10 minutes. Worrying about the act going too fast won’t help anytime especially as quickies are underestimated. It’s all about quality sex but It’s also okay to take your time by going slowly.

NO to routine sex; copulating on the same day every month/week with the same sex styles only, can be very boring. It can be less exciting doing the same stuff repeatedly instead, shake things up a little bit by having sex in a different part of your house. Change the time  and try different sex position especially a new style that you have never indulged in before now.

Experiment and explore something new in the bedroom, by trying new sex positions. Take turns to pleasure one another and all of these tips can help you get in the mood and make love with a lot of fun. All these will keep things a little spicy.

Keep flirting- Most couples actually stopped doing this after tying the knots. It’s really key you continue flirting like you did when dating, and of course, you are still attracted to your spouse but doing otherwise bumps up the attraction; instead, take It up a notch from the norm by flirting with one another.

 Touch therapy- Hold hands more enough, snuggle/cuddle/smooch on the couch and be sure to hug each other before setting out for the day. The above moments may not be the mind blowing passion you desire, but the acts can help you re-establish physical intimacy with your partner, and can help to improve your sexual life on the long run.

Intercourse out of obligation/duty can lead to sexual dissatisfaction and the outcome is ultimately resentment towards your spouse.

SissyAde is an Integrative Sex Therapist, Sex Columnist with Sunday Vanguard Newspaper and Relationship Coach based in Lagos, Nigeria.