2023 PLEASURE GOALS

Pleasure is that feeling of satisfaction that oftentimes can be associated with a positive and enjoyable experience. Stuff such as consent, safety, privacy, and the ability to communicate enables pleasure to contribute to sexual health.

Sexual pleasure is quite different for everyone and can be affected by things such as emotions, location, weather, and mental health in other words; what’s pleasurable for one couple might not be pleasurable for another couple.

Funny enough, when some couples think of sexual pleasure most of the time, what usually comes to their mind instantly includes the vagina, genitals, breasts, nipples, and butt as the normal erogenous parts (body parts sensitive to sexual stimulation). Forgetting that loads of other parts of one’s body can make them feel pleasure too. A kiss on the neck, a stroke of a thigh, or a scratch down your back might be more pleasurable for you and it can be fun to find out where exactly on your body, experiences pleasure.

Regardless of gender, one must never hold back in racing toward enjoying pleasures goals even if you do have an orgasm at the end, there will still be more to enjoy during the course of action.

At the bottom are some tips to aim for during sex aside.

• Pleasure– This is quite different from orgasm as it doesn’t necessarily have to involve the genitals but it’s inclusive of your five senses, as well as that of your emotions which can come from your lover’s touch on your skin, the sight of them taking their clothes off or their smell. “Whether it’s the pleasure of touch- which carries a host of potential benefits, including lowering blood pressure, stress levels, and heart rate- the erotic pleasure of shared arousal, allowing pleasure to guide your experience can make sex more satisfying and meaningful.
• Intimacy– Mating must not always be about intercourse and outercourse, it can sometimes help to deepen one’s emotional connection with a spouse. Research has shown that most lovers reported feeling heightened levels of attraction, fondness, closeness, and intimacy after making love irrespective of whether orgasm was achieved or not. Whereas some others experience being physically close and sharing pleasures are essential benefits of sex.
• Relaxation– As you already know intercourse is one powerful way to wind down after a long day hustling, it helps to get your mind off work including reducing your stress levels. “While you probably don’t want to be thinking about sleep while at it, a lot of couples actually sleep better after sex; from personal experience and findings.
• Self-Discovery– Sexploration and sexperiment are what most spouses use to find the different sides of themselves that might not easily come out in their everyday lives; you can achieve this through role-playing, dirty talk, experimenting with different noises, or pillow playing.
• Generosity– The simple truth is that your own pleasure matters as much as that of your significant other. Giving pleasure to your bae/boo is a form of pleasure in itself. So indulge in touching therapy to show your affection for your guy/lady.
• Mood Boost– Indulging in sex has a lot of health benefits like the feel-good hormones; ruffling the bedsheet and looking forward to having a good time at the end of the act makes it worth a while.

On a final note, your experience of sexual pleasures can be diverse in nature, learn to be creative when exploring your pleasure zones.

Move out of your comfort zone by trying something outside the box and get to know what works for you as it’s really up to you to set the bar for what constitutes pleasurable sex!