INITIATING SEX AS A WOMAN.

INITIATING SEX AS A WOMAN.
Initiating sex is one big deal in any healthy relationship. However, sex should not always be one partner all the time because it feels nice to feel wanted and desired.
Initiating intercourse can be a bit tricky to navigate for fear of misunderstanding and rejection.
Good communication can stop this from happening to some extent; you being able to tell that he’s not in the mood because he genuinely doesn’t feel up to it and not necessarily because there’s anything wrong with you.
Also know that it is not just verbal cues or asking outright that can make sex happen.
Majority of the time, ladies wait and expect their lovers to always make the first move even when they feel horny.
This shouldn’t always be so, waiting for your guy to feel horny so that he takes the first step.
Being able to initiate love making as a lady can be the difference between feeling super-nervous and   get it on like a real pro.
Get creative, know how to initiate sex, turn up the heat and the plunge for once as spicing up your sex life can save your union; nothing beats creativity.
Couples being frisky with one another plays a huge role in intimacy; you get to bond and build a stronger connection vulnerable and copulate.
Spouse’s quarrels most of the time are usually due to lack of sex life. Communication gets thrown off and the feeling distant from one another starts building up.
 Here’s how to initiate sex in an alluring way to arouse your partner: get him in the mood even when he is not game.
There is really no right or wrong way to initiate sexual activity but knowing how to initiate sex with your spouse in a way that makes him eager to hop in bed with you is the secret to a healthy sexual life.
* Make use of playful communication as a way to signal to your man, your interest and availability for mating like wearing a certain piece of jewelry that let him know you’re in the mood, putting a note on the dresser or on the bed where he can easily see it. The kitchen is not left out as you can even have a designated fridge magnet that you place when interested in mating with your lovebird.
* Body language is a subtle way to build up sexual heat and to communicate interest, expressing your desire for your boo without uttering words. Like brushing against them in the doorway, running your fingers through his hair, pulling him close for a hug, physical moves like slowly unbuttoning his clothing while watching for his reaction and approval can also suffice; all these are easy ways to let him know you’re in the mood.
* Start in the morning and  a good place to begin is in the chat box, send a spicy text such as I can’t wait to see you tonight and naughty pictures: stuff to build anticipation to make him horny.
* Spice things up to a top notch by sprinkling a mix of dirty talks, give him insight into your expectations for the bedroom and let him know how much he turned you on, how much you did like to touch and taste him. Be more specific about your sexual desires and invite him to indulge you.
* Dress the part as words are not always necessary when sending signs that you are feeling sexy.
Visual stimulation can get one in the mood; let your outfit do the talking; you wearing underwear or wearing clothing that you feel attractive in, are some of the ways to send suggestive messages for later foreplay without you uttering a sound.
• A very nice dinner can turn up your romantic side and stylishly make a spectacle out of initiating love making.
Pull out all the stops and cook a delicious meal. And in case you really want to increase your odds of getting laid, then be sure to feed him aphrodisiacs.
* Complimenting your spouse is a powerful way to initiate sex and it’s easier to compliment your significant other on something you love about them and how it makes you feel. Share your arousal/desire/interest  at that moment and how turned on you are about how he makes you feel.
*Jump into the shower with him, this is another sneaky way to initiate intercourse.
Pretend that you’re there to take a bath or help wash him up. Take the soap and rub your hands along his naked body. This will get his mind moving in a sexual direction.
* Try using your hands (best sex toys) in all the right places to turn your partner on: give a back massage with the right amount of pressure, gently scratch his back, run your hand through the hair and trace your guy’s lips with your fingers. All of these soft, slow touches can get him turned on.
* It’s cool to send a naughty sext from the bedroom. This is not just a light-hearted way to initiate sex, it can also be a very straightforward and fun way. For instance, you can send a sexy picture of you laying on the bed from the bedroom with a short message like, “ baby I’m waiting for you!”
* Flaunt your body in every way possible while  laying close to your lover on the couch watching a movie. Stylishly use your body to get him turned on by rubbing your pelvis against him, massage his back and manhood. Use every inch of his entire human body you’re touching to get him in the mood.
• If in bed already and your guy walks into the room, give him that look of “I want you” when he looks at you, he will put two and two together, and hit the bed really fast.
* Give him a sexual surprise by gently waking him up with a handjob from sleep in the middle of the night or early morning by going down on him.
* Don’t  put pressure on yourself or spouse, try not to have unrealistic expectations when it comes to intercourse since there may be times when either of you might not be game. This is where understanding and being compassionate with one another comes in handy.
Respect each other’s space and don’t take it personally if your mate is not in the mood, knowing that there are non penetrative sexual activity you can engage in when sex is not forth coming.
Never feel ashamed or embarrassed when initiating sex because somebody has to do it; so why not be that person since you have sexual needs that you want fulfilled.
Initiating sex can be fun and enjoyable, from foreplay and teasing to the exploration of physical touch and sensations in each moment, can be that special and memorable for days and weeks to come.
So, ladies, let’s initiate sexual congress, this can be rejuvenating in marriage. It can be a jump-start excitement and pleasurable experiences to share with one’s spouse.

SissyAde

She’s A Sex Columnist With Sunday Vanguard Newspaper, Family Speaker, Relationship/Marriage Coach And Integrative Sex Therapist: She’s In Lagos-Nigeria.