REVIVING YOUR SEX LIFE @ LACK OF CASH.

The possibility of the effect of lack of cash on lovemaking can never be over-emphasized but here’s the good news, your sexual life can be restored; stressing over money cannot get in the way of fulfilling sex and orgasm.

Money to a large extent, is the most common source of stress among couples and if not properly handled can spill tension into the bedroom as financial issues can have an all-encompassing effect on your moods and can overflow into your relationships but it doesn’t have to be

So especially as it can destroy your sex life with your spouse. “Chronic stress can wear down people’s ability to let go and fully enjoy themselves during sex,” said Azra Alic, a licensed clinical social worker in Palo Alto, California. “People can become so preoccupied with worries about their financial future that they cannot concentrate on what’s happening in front of them in this case, sex.”

Including going the extra mile to make things better financially like regularly putting in extra hours at the office or taking loans which can result in body exhaustion. “Because so much energy goes toward worrying, planning, and in some cases overworking, some people find that there is not enough energy left over to get in the mood,” says Alic.

Effects of lack of cash can be seen in even more damaging ways, instead of risking yet another fallout about money with their significant other, most couples just prefer to bottle up their emotions and avoid talking about finances at all which is not too good because over time those feelings “become pent up and turn to resentment, which becomes like a cancer to the relationship People can become passive-aggressive and withhold sex from their partners as an attempt to punish or to act out their rage,” said psychotherapist Lauren Dummit, the co-founder and clinical director of Triune Therapy Group in Los Angeles.

“When we experience stress, our nervous system goes into a fight-or-flight response, releasing stress hormones such as cortisol and epinephrine.”

Although these hormones are not harmful in small doses, “however, when we experience chronic stress and the release of these toxic hormones is prolonged, our physical health is affected in many ways,” Dummit said. “For example, cortisol suppresses our sex hormones.” That, in turn, lowers your libido.

Here’s how to get out of your sexual rut- It’s really very important to find ways to alleviate cash stress and that’s by getting your money and your mind in the right place which leads to bigger rewards in the bedroom.

*’Be sure to get some quality sleep- Not having enough sleep means you’re not giving yourself a fighting chance (less sleep equals less efficiency).

On the other hand, if you crave time for sleep, it can help fight off those pesky stress hormones. “So make time to get a little more sleep as it can help lower cortisol levels.” And you will better be able to be a problem-solver and better be able to get yourself out of the cash rut.

* Take care of yourself by engaging in a healthy activity- Instead of bottling up your emotions, find a healthy outlet that helps you blow off some steam such as spending more time outdoors and it could be you going for a walk, reading a book, listening to music, playing a video game or swimming whatever you enjoy most. Just about anything to help you take a break from life’s stress.

Looking after yourself will go a long way in helping you find a purpose in life through which you can reconnect with your loved ones.

* Pay attention to your health- More difficult to manage stress when the body isn’t in the best form of shape. Try making some adjustments by eating healthy plus exercising on a daily routine. “Low to moderate exercise has also been shown to help reduce stress, regulate hormones, and increase libido.” And if your physical wellness is poor, you’re less likely to be thinking but making love. Improving your overall well-being will result in positive outcomes. So, develop a mental health action plan of low-cost methods to care for your state of health.

* Talk to someone- Wanting to improve both your finances and your mental health is a lot easier when you seek help. “Perhaps most importantly, talk to someone about your financial problems,” if possible a professional.

Confront the fear rather than avoiding the topic and this will help ease the stress that’s causing your problems.

* Builds Self-Esteem- Flashbacks on how you felt when you got a job opportunity that you wanted, the pay raise you deserved, or being able to get your dream house; these milestones improved and bolstered your self-confidence. Guess what: one is more likely to be in a sexual mood when self-assured. For instance, a lover hardly thinks that what he/she wears can have an effect on his/her sex life but feeling good and confident will make them feel more inclined to have intercourse because with confidence the battle is already half won.

* Exercise- This is one of the best ways to relieve stress and it’s really the quickest way to “blow off steam.”

Try exercising with your spouse, a good way to hold yourself accountable and a powerful way to reconnect. Since you only need to worry about what’s in front of you when working out it can re-rejuvenate intimacy again.

* Getting cash can really improve the lovemaking and get stuff back to where you really want them to be. “The security of paying bills and  financial gains can have an impelling influence on our urges and can, in itself be a significant booster.”

* Have more sex- What did l say more sex?

This might seem counterintuitive but it’s actually one of the best things you can do to improve your sexless life; is to just have sex. The tendency you might not be in the mood beforehand cannot be ruled out, you’ll likely find your groove and feel better afterward since sex is a stress killer.

* Open conversation about money- The more open the communication is between and bae/boo, the more trust you build especially if you feel that lack of finance is affecting your sexual life (this is truly the very first step you can take). Ultimately, the aim is to relieve the tension that money inflicts on your relationship.

Finally, any kind of stress and sex drive are intricately linked. For you to keep the sparks in your sexual life, you’re going to need to be with your spouse, body, and mind.

There might be bumps on the path to overcoming your libido but it’s not an impossible task especially if you listen to your body and you’re right on your way to reviving a sexless union.

Keep the spark in your romance glowing and it’s not impossible to go on cheap dates as you can make anything into a date if hanging with an understanding partner.

Sex and money do not have to be tricky talks and you not caring about lack of cash is physically unheard of but it’s not spiritual superior either!