SEX AND ROMANCE @ SENIOR CITIZENS.

SEX AND ROMANCE IN SENIOR CITIZENS.

The act of making love is an important part of human life. The way you have sex and how often you have it can change with aging (change is the only constant thing in life).

Quite a number of stuff change with time but  when it has to do with sex and romance, traditional norms tend to hold sway because of social stigma attached to sexual activity among seniors.

Young adults find it a surprise to learn that the oldies continue to copulate into their later years. They find it embarrassing when their parents act lovey dovey in their presence. They find it hard to believe or accept that their parents are still “doing it.”

The mere thought of people in their 60s or 70s enjoying sexual intimacy is gross and disgusting to them.

Stereotyping and assumptions may stop oldies from indulging in regular sexual behaviours and it shouldn’t be because sexual activity can help to provide various benefits to them; benefits like improved emotional health, self-esteem and happiness.

What are senior citizens thoughts on this?

Do they really think about sex at their age entering their 70s and 80s?

More than a quarter of the men and a third of the women actually enjoy sex more than when they were in their 20s.

Regardless of a man’s age, he never stops thinking about sex: all thanks to the availability of drugs for erectile dysfunction, impotence is no longer a barrier to enjoying sex.

Post menopausal women use  lubricants to remove the problem of ‘sandpaper-sex’ caused by vaginal dryness. 

Older women are sexually more liberated and more adventurous with their spouses because they don’t have to worry about missed periods or getting pregnant anymore. No longer does it interrupt sleep, reading, listening to music, meals, movies, conversations, phone calls as sex is more creative to them at this stage which makes for more satisfying sex.

It is less than bam, bang and done: more of touching, the beauty of being older since they are now more open and receptive.

Caution is the key word and it’s safe to be mindful that aging can  impose certain limits to what the physical body can do; but there are comfortable sex positions that still allow for full sexual stimulation and pleasure.

Oldies should be sure to use protection like condoms very vital to avoid catching sexually transmitted infection and this has nothing to do with age.

Lube preferably the water-based is best and safe to use with condoms since the oil-based can cause breakage.

Seek professional advice for those with heart disease, ask your doctor if your heart is healthy enough for intercourse. It is generally assumed that if one can walk up a flight of stairs, that means, the heart is strong. 

For those with chronic injuries, sex therapists can help strategize styles that can make it easier if sex is important to you as  a healthy and enjoyable part of aging. It can be affirming to have a lover show sexual interest, very powerful for building connection and intimacy with one’s spouse.

 Love making is not strictly for younger or healthiest people. It’s really meant to be enjoyed by every body type and age.

Maintaining an active sexual relationship can be as just as important as it may have been in their 20s/30s,/40s/60s/70s etc.

It gets better with age, not just for pleasure but also for boostIng mental and physical fitness as well as the quality of life.

Anyone can really have an incredible fulfilling sexual life at any age!

SissyAde- An Integrative Sex Therapist/Relationship Coach/Sex Columnist/Family Speaker Who Works Globally. And She Enjoys Sewing And Watching Soap Opera @ Her Leisure.